Go Serve Someone

On Tuesday I was running late to the airport.   I decided to park inside to be closer, but there was an attendant at the gate that said it was full and I had to go to the economy parking. I took the trip around the airport to get back to the economy parking and struggled to find a spot. After parking a long ways away from any of the bus stops I ran to catch a bus I could see in the distance only to find it was full. I waited another 5 minutes for the next bus as I got the notification that my flight was boarding. The second bus came and there was room. I got in ready to zoom to the terminal but there were several elderly passengers with wheel chairs, walkers and canes that all had to get off. At this point my anxiety was
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Can You Laugh At Yourself?

Last month my 12-year-old daughter, Andie, was diagnosed with scarlet fever, strep throat and the flu all at the same time.   She felt miserable and the rash from scarlet fever covered her body and face.  I felt horrible for her. At its very worse, she came downstairs and said, “Dad I look like I a tomato that got sunburned and then someone beat me up” 🙂   I loved that she could laugh at herself even in the midst of feeling bad and, well let’s face it, looking horrible.   For all of us, learning to laugh at ourselves has very positive benefits. Note that I said laugh at ourselves, which means that we don’t take ourselves too seriously. This is not to be confused with negative self-talk and poor self-image.   Benefit #1 – It improves our health   According to psychologist and humor researcher Dr. Arnie Cann, Laughter
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Can You Be Genuinely Happy For Others?

Last week I overheard my son and his friend talking about something that happened in their class where everyone got a bag with a prize inside. They were talking about how one child got a better prize than everyone else. All the other children were saying “That’s not fair,” and “He doesn’t deserve that.” All were upset about why this one boy got something better than they did. After hearing my son and his friend hash this out for I while, I took the opportunity to talk to them about how important it is in your life to be able to celebrate others and not have to be upset or try and tear other people down because they did something or were able to succeed in some way you weren’t. I think that is one of the biggest problems that we struggle with in life is the ability to be
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Three Ways To Become an Optimist

Last week I spoke at The Million Dollar Round Table in New Orleans, Louisiana. I had a chance to sit in on a few of the other sessions and in one of them I listened to Shawn Achor. Shawn Achor is a New York Times bestselling author of The Happiness Advantage. He is the winner of over a dozen distinguished teaching awards at Harvard University where he delivered lectures on positive psychology in the most popular class at Harvard. Shawn’s work on happiness and positivity became mainstream when his Ted Talk went viral. Shawn shared three habits that have been scientifically proven to make you an optimist. These simple habits are powerful enough to counteract your genes, your environment and your habitual pessimistic thinking. Three Ways To Become An Optimist: Take 1 minute every day and vocalize three things that you are grateful for in your life. Make sure each day
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Change Your Thinking

For the majority of people in the world, success is viewed as luck, or being at the right place at the right time. They never take into consideration that you also need to be the right person at the right place at the right time. To most, success is usually determined by external circumstances. But true success is only created internally. Author Sterling W Sill once said, “One of the greatest paradoxes of life is that almost everyone wants to improve his circumstances, but almost no one wants to improve himself. And yet our personal preparation is the key to all success.” Unsuccessful people blame external circumstances; successful people internalize responsibility for their success. This represents a new way of thinking; a paradigm shift that is necessary for your progress. Until this shift takes place the unsuccessful continue to get more and more of what they don’t want, and (comically)
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