How do you feel when you are talking to someone and they keep looking around or checking their phone?
Now how many of us are guilty of doing the same thing to others?
This weekend I had a chance to speak at the same conference as Nigel Risner. Nigel is an entertaining speaker who made a lot of great points but the one that stuck out to me was the importance of being present.
In my book – The Power of Influence, I talk about focusing on being interested, not interesting. And being present in a conversation; when someone else is talking – is one of the best ways to focus on being interested.
When we are present we validate the other person. We make them feel important and appreciated. When we are not present – what messages are we sending people? – You are not important, I don’t care about you, I am not interested.
Being present is powerful. When we eliminate distractions, put other thoughts on hold, and pay full attention to the people we are with and the conversation we are having – people will know that you are interested, value them, and care.
This simple gesture will leave a lasting influence on those you interact with and leave you with the respect of those you interact with.