The Rule of Two – How to Connect with People

The Rule of Two – How to Connect With People   A few months ago I wrote a blog titled, Stop One-Upping If You Want to Connect with Others https://tybennett.com/stop-one-upping-people-if-you-want-to-connect/  I had a lot of comments on the blog from people who recognize that they do this and others who talked about how annoying it is when people do it to them. We all know what it feels like when someone makes the conversation about them or shares a bigger and better story than what was just shared. It causes us to shrink back, disengage and feel defensive. Last week I was speaking for Anthem Insurance in California and at one of the breaks a salesman named Joe asked if he could share an insight with me. Earlier that day I shared an idea that I teach to focus on being interested, not interesting and he said it reminded him
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A Networking Observation

Yesterday I went to a networking event for lunch. There were about 80 people there and we were assigned to tables with 8 at each table. The conversation was good, but superficial throughout the lunch. The typical question was directed at the name of the company on the name tag. “Tell me about XYZ company?” or “What do you do at XYZ?” Then the event director introduced an activity. We went around the table and each of us had two minutes to answer a personal question and then 2 minutes to talk about what we do professionally. The personal question was either “What is a mistake you have made in the past?” or “What has been a memorable sporting event for you?” I don’t think it mattered what the personal questions were but the interesting thing that happened was when people began to open up and talk about personal things,
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