Leadership Is Individual

Last week I had a speech in Hartford, CT speaking for a leadership group at The Hartford. Since it was two hours away from New York City, I decided to take my oldest daughter, Andie, and make a trip out of it. We had a blast! We explored the city from the 9/11 Memorial to Central Park. We saw Matilda on Broadway and even made a long visit to The American Girl Doll Store :). In May, I took my son Tanner on a fishing trip to Idaho. It was a totally different experience but an amazing bonding experience all the same. Each month we do a lot of things as a family, but my wife, Sarah, and I also do individual dates with our kids. The reason we do this is because we believe – Leadership Is Individual. You don’t lead a group of people, you lead individuals that
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Real Leadership Is About Building Leaders Not Followers

Ralph Nader said that, “The function of leadership is to produce others leaders, not just other followers.”  If that is true then the question becomes how do you produce other leaders? And if our focus is on empowerment and leadership development then the legacy of a leader is not what they do when they are at the helm, but rather what happens after they leave. Two years ago, with this thought process in place, I had a chance to test out some of my theories on leadership and can now measure the result. In June of 2013 I was put in as the President of the Mountain West Chapter of The National Speakers Association. This position was a one year commitment and I wanted to not only make an impact during that year but I wanted to set it up for the chapter to continue to thrive after my term
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Take Excuses Off The Table

I had a chance to interview Don Yaeger. Don is an 8 Time NY Times Bestselling Author and a leadership expert. In this video clip Don shares a trait of great achievers – They hate to lose more than they love to win. – Watch this quick but powerful idea: Click on the image  of Don to watch the video –    
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Have You Ever Been Caught in The Act?

Have You Ever Been Caught in The Act? I just read that headline out loud and I think it could easily be misconstrued.  Trust me – this post is completely appropriate. So caught in the act of what? We all talk a lot. We preach and teach and explain how things should be done and the question is if you were caught in the act – would you be practicing what you preach? If I walked into your life unexpected at any given time – would I find you walking your talk? The reason I bring this up is because I was caught in the act twice last week and one was incriminating and the other was vindicating. We went on a road trip this last week to Las Vegas. (about a 5 hour drive) so my wife Sarah and I had a chance to talk quite a bit. Somewhere
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Be Interested, Not Interesting

If you have read my book The Power of Influence or heard me speak you have heard me share the idea that we should focus on being interested, not interesting. Influence comes from making it about them and when we are genuinely interested in someone else they will love us for it. My friend John Milton Fogg (Author of The Greatest Networker in The World) told me a story the other day that illustrates this idea. Years ago the Editor of Psychology Today was writing a book. As part of his research, he purchased a first class ticket from New York City to Los Angeles. He knew he would sit next to someone on this six hour flight and his task was to only ask questions. He wouldn’t volunteer any information about himself, instead he would do his best to make the conversation all about them. When they landed in
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