Stop One-Upping People If You Want To Connect

The common conversation: Statement: “I had the coolest experience last week. I was on a business trip in New York City meeting with a new client and they invited me to see Billy Joel in concert at Madison Square Garden! The seats were amazing and it was by far the best concert I have ever been to.”   Reply: “Well you know the coolest concert I’ve ever been to… We have all had a version of this conversation or possibly hundreds of them. My question is – how does this make you feel about the other person? When someone one-ups you in conversation it makes you shut down and close off. It doesn’t leave you with a positive feeling toward that person and it definitely hurts all future interaction. So why do we do it?   There are three main reasons we one-up others in conversation and fairly simple solutions
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