Have you ever heard or read a quote that made you stop & ask to hear it again?
Yesterday that happened with this quote by David Augsburger:
“Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable.”
Isn’t that powerful?!
Listening is a skill we all need to work on. Whether it’s in leadership, in relationships, in friendships or parenthood – we can probably all improve in this area.
Especially at a time of crisis when people are hurting, confused, anxious & scared, they need to feel loved (in other words – heard).
So I wanted to share a fun test to see if you are a good listener or where you need improvement.
Am I A Good Listener?
Steven Ash, “The Career Doctor” developed this listening test. It is a great
way to see where you rate as a listener. Good luck!
Give yourself 4 points if the answer to the following questions is Always;
three points for Usually; two points for Rarely; and one point for Never.
__ Do I allow the speaker to finish without interrupting?
__ Do I listen “between the lines”; that is for the subtext?
__ When writing a message, do I listen for and set down the key facts and
__ Do I repeat what the person just said to clarify the meaning?
__ Do I avoid getting hostile and/or agitated when I disagree with the
__Do I tune out distractions when listening?
__Do I make an effort to seem interested in what the other person is saying?
26 or higher – You are an excellent listener
22-25 – Better than average score
18 – 21 room for improvement
17 or lower – Get out there right away and start listening