Choose Your Words Wisely

Have you ever thought about the connotations of the words you use? Words have an innate power. Words sell and words repel. Words lead and words impede. Words heal and words kill. When I lived in Portugal and learned to speak Portuguese, the leader or our mission made a rule that we couldn’t use the word “Dificil” which means difficult. Instead he had us use the word “desefiador” which means challenging. At the time I didn’t think much about it but now I realize the genius in it. When things are difficult you feel defeated, but a challenge is something you step up to meet. The connotation of those words changed our mindset. In my house we don’t say, “I can’t” It’s a simple thing but I don’t want my kids to mentally stop themselves when they have the capacity to do it. I don’t want to allow myself to
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Our World Needs More Optimists

Those who believe in positive results think the world looks bright.  They see the good in things and not just the bad. They carry a smile on their face instead of a frown. Author John Maxwell said, “A pessimist is a person who regardless of the present is disappointed in the future.” An optimist then is a person who regardless of the present is excited about the future. The world is full of pessimists. We are conditioned to be negative and cynical. I find it interesting that very few people would admit to being negative. They use the excuse that they are “realists” not “pessimists”. The problem with that is reality is based on perception. We create our world and our experiences. Optimists just tend to create better worlds. The great thing about optimism is that it is simply a choice. Let me explain with this story about my friend
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The Two Most Important Days of Your Life

  I’m excited to share my new book – The Two Most Important Days of Your Life. The book – The Two Most Important Days of Your Life is a fable based on a true story. Years ago, my friend Wes Blatter received an unexpected phone call that quickly put life into perspective. On the other end of the line was a devastated and emotional mother. She greeted Wes, and said, “I don’t know if you remember me or my family but ten years ago you were my son Danny’s Scout Master.” She paused momentarily and then said, “The reason I am calling is because Danny committed suicide yesterday. He left a note describing how you had been a positive influence in his life and asked for you to speak at his funeral.” Not only was Wes shocked at the reality of the situation, but also after so many years
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The Best in the World

  Do you remember what you wanted to be when you were a kid? Was it an astronaut, a baseball player, a fireman, chef, writer, actor, lawyer or a doctor? Regardless of what profession you chose, there is a common element to childhood dreams: Every child dreams of being “The Best in the World.” Think about it – you didn’t dream about being a casual, better than average basketball player. You dreamed about being in the NBA and winning a world championship. You didn’t dream about being a writer whose book never got published. You dreamed of writing the best-selling book of all time. Children dream big, and don’t see past their goal to envision all the work it will take to get there – they just dream. But somewhere between childhood and adulthood, we lose the “best in the world” part of our dreams and settle for the “that’s
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Change Someone’s Day

This weekend I am speaking in Napa, CA – wine country. I came across this cool story of an anonymous woman who is giving bottles of wine to couples every weekend.  –  http://abcnews.go.com/Lifestyle/millionaire-secretly-giving-bottles-wine-unsuspecting-diners-san/story?id=28869732   “I am madly in love with this community. I’m so thankful to live here,” she told ABC News. “I just wanted to do something that married my love of this wine country with the community and make people smile and do something fun.” This random act of kindness is a cool way that she is making a surprising and positive difference in the lives of others. It made me step back and ask: What am I doing to make a surprising and positive impact on others? What is your answer? I think it starts with those closest to us. Can I take the time to put a surprise note or sketch in with my kid’s lunch? Or
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Live Each Day as Your First Last Day

I still have two more posts on my series of Presentation Tips From Shark Tank but I just returned from an amazing trip to The Philippines and wanted to share a great insight I learned there. I spoke to several thousand entrepreneurs and one of the other speakers at the conference was a man named Joey Reyes. He has been a sought after speaker and trainer in The Philippines for 15+ years. One of the pieces of advice that Joey shared that I thought was powerful was the advice to Live Each Day as Your First Last Day. Let me explain: Your First Day: Think about your first day of school. Or your first day at a new job. Do you remember the enthusiasm and excitement that you felt? You were energized, ambitious and ready to give it your best. Your Last Day: If you knew you only had one
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At The End of The Day – What Matters Most

This week in my personal reading I came across some information about some beliefs of Ancient Egyptians. I found it all very interesting but I was struck by their belief about what happens when you die. The Ancient Egyptians had a belief that when you died you were met at the gates of heaven and asked two questions. Your answers determined whether you were let into heaven or not. The two questions are these: 1. -Did you experience pure joy in your life? 2. -Did your life bring joy to others? At the end of the day, the answer to those two questions is really what matters most! These questions caused me to step back and ask myself these questions, and I wanted to share them with you because I think we can all course correct at times to focus on what matters most. Analyze if you have felt pure
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A Wish For Leaders

I sincerely wish you will have the experience of thinking up a new idea, planning it, organizing it, and following it to completion, and then having it be magnificently successful. I also hope you’ll go through the same process and have some-thing “bomb-out.” I wish you could know how it feels “to run” with all your heart and lose – horribly. I wish that you could achieve some great good for mankind, but have nobody know about it except for you. I wish you could find something so worthwhile that you deem it worthy of investing your life. I hope you become frustrated and challenged enough to begin to push back the very barriers of your own personal limitations. I hope you make a stupid, unethical mistakes and get caught redhanded and are big enough to say those magic words “I was Wrong.” I hope you give so much of
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Finding Purpose in Work

This morning I spoke to about 75 business owners and executives in Utah. They are all part of a networking company that seeks to build business through fostering stronger relationships. The subject they asked me to speak on was employee engagement. That may be an unfamiliar term, but employee engagement is the measure of those people that are willing to go the extra mile for a project or a coworker. It represents those that apply extra effort even when no one is watching because they take pride in their work and their organization. On the level of heart and soul, they feel a sense of purpose in their work. Now, according to that definition, how many of you would define yourself as being engaged in your work? And how many of your people would be defined as engaged? I believe that engagement is the process of aligning purpose with profession.
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